Today, I want to talk about body image.

The definition of Body image is the perception that a person has of their physical self and the thoughts and feelings that result from that perception. These feelings can be positive, negative or both, and are influenced by individual and environmental factors.

Now that we’ve gotten that out of the way. I want you to look at my (UNEDITED)  portrait 👇👇👇👇👇

Now, let me be completely  transparent with you.  When I first saw this picture, i hated it. And I refused to post it. I will  tell you why. I hated it because it point out my imperfections back at me. It reminded me that my 2 pregnancies stretched my stomach to the max in my life. It shows the extra rolls on my side. And it shows the insecurity on my face because that was my focus while taking the picture.

How many of you can relate to the feelings and emotions of seeing a photo of yourself and immediately  wanting to delete it?

Why is that?

Who told you that you were not beautiful with your rolls and stretch marks?

Who are you comparing yourself to?
Why have you been comparing yourself to others?

Who wrote the rules on whats perfect and whats not?

These are the same questions I had to ask my self and come up with answers.  It caused me to do some deep soul searching. I realized those thoughts about myself were not healthy thoughts.  They were self sabotaging and  damaging self thoughts.   I forced myself to look at this picture and point out beautiful things about what I disliked.  I looked at my stretch marks and told myself those of the most beautiful  marks on my body. Those marks was produced so that i could have this 👇👇👇👇

Aaaaaand

My 2 beautiful young gems💎


Then I went to my rolls or love handles. I couldn’t come up with anything lol so I said giiiiiiiiirrrrrrrrl  its probably all kinds of muscle up under there lololol And thats another thing….laugh at yourself from time to time. Stop taking yourself so seriously.   Feeling beautiful  doesn’t start from the outside. It doesn’t start once you lose those extra pounds. NO!! It starts right where you all. Stretch marks with love handles with a side of extra cushion.  Its not in everyone’s genetic makeup to be a size 2, 5, or a 10. Find the beauty in yourself right now then work on the physical improvements.  Whoever you are, I think your imperfections are a beautiful part of you.  Until next time…


I’m going to share with you all a personal moment in my life, when I didnt feel so pretty or good enough body wise. Being on social media and comparing myself to the people I saw on there. It was hard not seeing ppl on there that looked like myself.  I became self conscious and it showed in my personality towards others. It was after I had my 2nd son. My weight refuse to go down.  I didnt know how to deal with it or what to do to fix it. I had only one idea …..starve myself.  Yes, I know some of you personal trainers out there probably cringed when you read that but hey I didnt know any better at the time and I really had no one to teach me differently.  Starving myself seemed like it was working until my hair started falling out. Oh and I started getting a fever. And don’t get me started on the constant constipation, no energy and I even developed acid.  reflux. On top of all of that yall, I ended up gaining more weight. I couldn’t understand what I was doing wrong.  No eating = skinny …..right?     WRONG !!!!!!


My body was refusing to let go of the food I was eating because it didn’t know when it would get its next meal. Starving myself was having the opposite effect on my body. WTH !!!!???

After a couple of years of this, I realized that I wasn’t helping myself but hurting myself.  It wasn’t until I almost put myself into the hospital that I realized that the root of my problems was that I didn’t have any self love..  omg, I didn’t love myself. I didnt need to work on my weight, I needed to work on loving myself. Wow!! That hit me like a ton of bricks. So I shifted my thoughts from being over weight to how do I start loving myself. Which in return helped me to lose weight in the process. I started by researching ways to love yourself.

1st, was accept yourself just as you are, even if your not where you want to be. Now I must be honest, I knew this was going to be a hard one for me.

2nd, I had to stop comparing myself to others. So while I was going through this process, I took a break from social media for awhile.

3rd, I started walking. I used this time to give myself compliments the whole entire walk.  Yep, sure did.

4th, I started carrying a gallon of water with me everywhwere i went.   Omg water was soooo nasty to me at first but I saw how much water weight I was getting rid of so it started encouraging me to drink more of it.

5th, I stayed off of the scale. The break up was real. Sorry scale but we need to take break from each other for awhile.

6th, I started eating 5 small meals a day. High protein low carb meals.

After awhile of this, I could feel a change in my body and the way that I was feeling about myself.

I begin to realize that there was nothing wrong with my body. It was my mind that needed a diet.  I also started to realize that I wasn’t the only one going through this body shame thing. Both men and women feel this way. After more research I realized young girls and boys are experiencing this shame at an early age at an alarming rate. 

I knew I had to do something to help people  overcome this feeling of self hate but how?

I didnt have the answer back then but when I started photography, I kept running into the same problem with my clients being afraid to do photoshoots because of their ” love handles, stretch marks, big butts,  face, or because of their weigh gain as a whole.  Thats when the light bulb  went off.  I noticed how beautiful and confident they felt after doing a boudoir shoot or something a little sexy.  I enjoyed seeing the self love they found by looking at themselves in a way that they never did before.   I decided that boudoir was a way for me to help, teach and give back all at the same time. 

We are all beautiful. Everyone is not suppose to be skinny.  Some of us are suppose to be voluptuous queens And teddy bear kings. Who doesn’t still love their favorite teddy bear?  Stop being hard on yourselves and show more love and admiration.  C’mon look at yourself in the mirror, blow a kiss at yourself and own that shit….

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