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My baggage


 This was really hard for me to publish because this was something that i chose to keep inside but maybe my unfiltered truth can be someone elses break through. So i share with you unselfishly. Here goes……………………………. I didn’t eat too healthy today. Had honeycomb cereal for  breakfast,  watermelon for a snack ,  2 hot dogs and 1 bottle of water and Chex mix for snack. I have been feeling frustrated with myself and everything surrounding it. Marriage could be better, 2 kids leaving for the military soon, 37 without a real career going for myself making 500 a month,  and everybody looks to me to fix there problems. Sometimes I can handle it and other times, it’s just too much to handle.  Like I’m being pushed into a corner wall.  It’s hard for me to stick with one thing. I never finish what I start. I complain all the time and I trust no one. I’m very critical of others but I am offended when I’m criticized.  I don’t feel worthy a lot of times. I am the happiest when I’m with my kids. I like doing hair, I like giving advice, I like helping people with my money secretly, I love respectful kids, I’m excellent with money management,  I am detail oriented,  very organized, I love to be around positivity all the time, negativity puts me in a bad frame of mind, I love to laugh and make people laugh,  I strive for harmony, I hate liars even though I lie to myself, I don’t say what I really feel inside, I hide my feelings from others,  I worry what others think of me, I always want people to like and be pleased with me, I either don’t have any friends or I’m just not a good one, I’m a nagging person,  I love hard, I forgive fairly easy, I believe that Jesus died for me, I have been born again, I have accept Christ as my lord and savior, I love writing and putting my feelings down on paper, I love to see people do well in life whether they like me or not,  I’m a people’s person most of the time, I crave knowledge and wisdom, I love to show love and affection to the mistreated and homeless, I have a quick temper and a attitude problem, I can be one of the sweetest people you’ll ever meet, I get lazy when I’m bored, It’s hard for me to sit down and relax most of the time, I almost always see the glass half empty instead of half full, I don’t take well to rejection,  I’m too prideful to ask for help but I take pride in people in need of help,  I lose motivation really fast, I haven’t really healed from my past ( just kinda tuck it in my pockets), it’s hard for me to get over stuff, I loved my father but i never liked him (he was very  abusive to my mother), I believe I’m mixed but have no real  proof which angers me sometimes, I don’t have a genuine relationship with my only sister( I don’t think she ever got over the fact that I was born), I allow my fears to stop me from doing things I want to experience,  I ignore people’s phone calls when I don’t want to be bothered and I don’t know what my real passion or purpose is….. wheeeeew! !! Never did this before. I guess you can lie to everybody else but you can’t lie to yourself. Laying it all out.. God , can you handle all of this? This is what I’ve been holding onto for years. This is my baggage. 

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Fight for your marriage!


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I want to talk about a subject that everyone is so excited about in the beginning then once they do it, they realize it’s not all peaches and cream.. … yeah, you guessed it
MARRIAGE.
I was married in 2005 and divorced in 2008 due to infidelity. Then I married my best friend in 2012. Let me first say that marriage can be such a beautiful experience in life. But it’s also very challenging. What makes it so challenging? ( I just read your mind) well, when you marry someone, you become “as one”. All there issues become y’all issues. If you do something, go out somewhere, buy something, communicate thru text, email, skype etc, the other spouse should be on the same accord of agreement with it. If they are NOT or they don’t know about it, then it’s wrong in a marriage. When we make a decision to do something, we know if it’s right or not. We know if our other half would be pleased or not. And hey! If you are someone who doesn’t think like that then before you do it… ask yourself, would this piss my honey off if they found out? When you start making decisions that you hope the other person won’t find out about is when you move your marriage into a dangerous territory called division or separation. When there is a situation or subject that divides or separates a couple then you are not on the page ” as one”. I hope that make sense. Almost everything that one spouse does will have a effect on the other spouse. If one spouse does not pay a light bill on time and nothing is communicated, it will affect both of you because you both will be in the dark. THAT SMALL situation created division between the marriage because of no communication. That!! Ladies and gentlemen is a small crack of opportunity for the devil to work his magic in to your beautiful union. That’s all he need. An opportunity. He’s saying yes!!! I thought I would never get a chance to tear this marriage up. I couldn’t get them to be mad and breakup before cause every time you see them, there either praying together, praying for each other, keeping each other informed, laughing, having bible study with each other or having the best sex ever. Lol ( rubbing his hands together) the husband let the lights get cut off so I know she’s gonna be mad. Let me see how much damage I can do to this other wise beautiful marriage. That’s how the devil thinks about your marriage. He seeks to steal ( your marriage) kill ( your marriage) and destroy ( your marriage). So it’s up to you how you respond to the upsets in your marriage. Respond wrong ( you will give the devil a window of opportunity) respond right ( the devil lost his opportunity). Husbands, put god and wife first. Wives, put god and your husband first. Some of us have allowed the devil to screw our marriage up for so long that we don’t know where to start. That’s ok. God does… start with him. Just remember in a marriage that every one of us has weaknesses. No one is perfect so remove that expectation from your spirit. You have faults just like they do. When it seems like it hurts to think about making your marriage work because of the hurt and pain that you’ve endured. I understand that feeling all so good but pray for your spouse and ask God to restore you from the inside out and make you two whole again. Find you a prayer and fast on it every day and every night. Kiss your mate when you really feel like slapping the hell out of them. Love them hard even when you ” feel” they don’t deserve it. Your not doing it for them, your doing it as a sacrifice to god. Die to yourself. Fight for your marriage spiritually. If you really want it and watch god work.

mini rope twist


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This is a mini rope twist style. It’s takes about 4 to 5 hours to do. This will be my protective style of choice for a month. I started by cleansing and conditioning my hair, Then I Combed It Out And Sectioned It In 4 Pony tails And Let It Air dry. The only product I used to twist my hair was Murray’s gel lot – lock for natural hair. 1391280628148

 

Let me know if you have any questions or if you need a how to link that I need to post.

Thanks for blessing my page, naturalhairworldconfessions

 

Lean not, on your own understanding


Let me start by saying that I am known to worry about things, big and small. I am getting to know myself more spiritually. One of the things I’m working on is fear and worrying. So, I thought I’d share something with you guys that touched my heart in a very unusual way today. Lately, I’ve been praying to God about opening my own Natural hair salon business. Keep in mind, I have no prior managerial or business skills. I’m currently working at a salon chain company like cuts by us, super cuts etc. Well, I was told I needed to attend a hair training class. which I thought was ridiculous because I’ve been cutting hair for 10 years  and I’ve taken this class already ( 8 years prior). Needless to say, I was upset because I thought it was a waste of my time. The class is for 3 days (Tues, Wed and Thurs).  I recieved a call the night before stating that I needed to bring a copy of my stylist license and another form. Both of which I could not find (just my luck) So, I started panicking. Not only couldnt I find my paper work but I suddenly remembered I didnt have anyone to take my 3 boys to school, or pick them up because I would be in training from 9 to 5. The morning of my  training class, I got up early  and joyce myers was on  TV talking about how we need to Stop trying to work everything out your way and ask god to help us more. So, I said out loud God, I cannot find a my license, I  didnt have the other paper I needed for this training and I dont know how my kids are gonna get to or from school. I need your help with it all. In the mean time, I am going to get dressed for this class that I don’t want to go to and trust you for the rest. I am NOT going to worry about any  of it. AMEN!!  So, I got dressed and ate breakfast. Right when I was about to wake the kids up for school, a news flash across my television school stating “School will be closed today” because of possible snow in Georgia. Well, I didn’t have to tell you that my mouth flew open with surprise. Now, I could go to this training and didn’t have to worry about my kids going to school today. WOW!! So, I went on to the training class relieved. When I arrived guess what?? No one asked about my license and the other form that I needed….. The instructor gave me a spare copy she had on her desk without me asking her for one (2nd WOW). Once she started training us, I noticed everything she was teaching was all important information for ME to know in order to have a successful hair salon. It was stuff  that I didn’t know and hadn’t heard before or maybe I have heard it before but this time it had a purpose for me. It’s ok to know how to cut and style hair but if you’re lacking  excellent customer service and appreciation for clients, your business has already failed. So, that’s why I needed to retake this training (3rd WOW). After the class was over for the day, I went home to find out that my kids school decided to close for the next day as well because of the weather. OMG, That’s 2 of my 3 training days  that god worked out for me with  the kids (4th WOW).  I trusted him. He provided and worked out my problems better than I could have done on my own. So, I looked up Proverbs 3 verse 5-6 . which reads….(.5 )Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; (6) in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.    I hope this will help someone else and increase your faith.

Thank for reading,

Naturalhairworldconfessions

Heal From Unsupportive Friends and Family


This video is by beautifulbrwnbabydol(Youtube) I love her because she’s so honest and straight forward. She speaks the truth and its so real. You don’t find people like this often. But anyway, I hope you enjoy this as much as I did and hopefully it will help someone… check her out on youtube if you haven’t already.

What do you know about a ” Vision Board”?


My Vision BoardA vision board is a tool used to help clarify, concentrate and maintain focus on a specific life goal. Literally, a vision board is any sort of board on which you display images that represent whatever you want to be, do or have in your life. In our ultra-digital age, you can also create vision boards to display on your computer screen and mobile devices.

What is the point? Simply put, we tend to be a very busy species and constantly bombarded by distractions. Making use of vision boards serves several purposes, some of which include helping you to:

  • Identify your vision and give it clarity.
  • Reinforce your daily affirmations.
  • Keep your attention on your intentions.
  • Vision Boards Help Provide Clarity

For example, to say “I want a better life” is a fine goal, but have you given serious thought to exactly what that means? Try to envision what your “better life” looks like. For those of us who find that somewhat difficult, making a vision board can be a tremendous help. In order to create my vision board, I must actively seek images that represent specific details of my wonderful new life. That means narrowing it down to specifics. For some, a better life might mean having a new car or home. Others may be seeking a new relationship or improvements in existing relationships. Doubtless you have heard it said that most of us never get what we want because we don’t know what we want. Making a vision board is a wonderful way to bring clarity to that general desire and turn it into an achievable goal.

Use a Vision Board for Your Daily Affirmations

I have high self esteem
I love and respect myself
I am a great person
I respect myself deeply
My thoughts and opinions are valuable
I am confident that I can achieve anything
I have something special to offer the world
Others like and respect me

These are some examples of a vision board.

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So, since you now know what a vision looks like……

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SEX…. Is it more of a chore or enjoyment?


This is another open forum for the ladies and gentlemen…

Question: Is sex more of a chore in a marriage/relationship or enjoyment?

I know some people can relate to  both sides. You hear about people being in relationship for a couple of years and lose the sexual enjoyment. Instead it become more of a chore. Something you do out of an obligation. If you didn’t have to do it you wouldn’t.

Quick scenario: chick gets ready for bed in a head scarf, sweat pants, big t-shirt with one sock on and the other one off. Boyfriend/ husband/fiancé, scratching his butt real hard, farts, look at his chic like she did it then yanks his boxers out of his crack just before getting under the covers. The chic has all kind of names going through her head that she wants to call him but instead both of them turn their backs to each other until……… he turns around and press it against her butt and then she has 2 seconds to come up with a good fake snore, get a fast head ache or take a deep breath and give in hoping it will be over soon.

My question is where does things go wrong? and why?  There are no right or wrong opinions.  I

I feel that sex is very important in  a relationship.  It’s where 2 people get a chance to connect on a spiritual level with their soul mate. It relieves stress, it makes your bond closer. It’s enjoyment for me… what about you?

Side Chicks..


This is a open forum for the Ladies and Gentlemen…….

Why are some women OK with being the side chic? 

I see it all of the time. I asked a guy his opinion and he said, ” I think females want to feel loved even if its not real. They think that some attention is better than none at all. We hear all the time about women without fathers in their life tend to look for  a man to fill the void but what about the mothers who raise these daughters? What have these women been exposed to growing up as a child from their mothers? Did the child grow up seeing the mother being a side chic?  What’s the mentality around it? I want to hear open minded opinions. There are not right or wrong answers. I want you to really think about it before you comment. And if you are a side chic or have been one in the past. Tell us your story… Maybe this information can help someone who might be lost or confused. Hey after all we have all been there whether we did it knowingly or not.

Rod, set, gooooo!!!!!


This is my first attempt at a rod set. Absolutely no heat was used. I used shampoo and conditioner by herbal Essence. Then while my hair was wet, I applied wrap lotion to each section and rolled it up in a spiral on those hard orange rods. I slept in those hard things over nite so it could air dry. Removed the rods this morning with some coconut oil and waalaaa!!!!
See before and after pics below. The things you can achieve being natural. Endless…….

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