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mini rope twist


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This is a mini rope twist style. It’s takes about 4 to 5 hours to do. This will be my protective style of choice for a month. I started by cleansing and conditioning my hair, Then I Combed It Out And Sectioned It In 4 Pony tails And Let It Air dry. The only product I used to twist my hair was Murray’s gel lot – lock for natural hair. 1391280628148

 

Let me know if you have any questions or if you need a how to link that I need to post.

Thanks for blessing my page, naturalhairworldconfessions

 

Stop!!! trying to please everybody.


Lately, I’ve been running into so many people who have a down fall of constantly trying to please other people.  I know many of you reading this can relate. Rather it’s you parents, boyfriend,  wife, children, boss, friends etc.  How many times have you said, I want to go here or wear this outfit but I know (fill in the blank) won’t like it?  So, you end up not doing what you want,  just so someone else is pleased.  Being a people pleaser makes you miserable. I must confess that I had it bad. I put my own feelings aside for people that mattered and it was so bad that I was trying to please people that I knew didn’t like me. How crazy is that? And let’s not talk about relationships. .. Omg, I use to bend over backwards for whoever I was dating to prove myself worthy to him. I liked wearing lipstick but if I knew they didn’t like it, I wouldn’t wear it. Or what about this all familar scenerio.

me: I want to go eat at McDonald’s.

Boyfriend: I like Burger King better. ( even though I hate Burger king)

me: oh ok, I’m sure I can find something there.

Meanwhile, I’m sitting at the restaurant miserable because I’m not happy with my choice but My hardest obstacle in life was my own mother.( believe it or not) My mom always used these manipulating tactics with me growing up. For instance, I always wanted to go to the airforce. So, after high school, I took the Asvab test to go to the Airfoce. That was around the same time my father passed away. So when my mom found out my plans, she started saying to me how if I left, she wouldn’t have anyone else here and how anything could happen to her. So instead of going through with my plans, I allowed her to manipulate me into staying and I never left.  I’m still here in the same city (One decision I will always regret). When she saw that worked, she started using it to pick my friends. After I was married, I told her that  my new husband and I ate thinking of moving 1 hour away to start our lives and what did she do?  She starting tell me how she’s getting old and if she dies,  she wanted me to have the house. I’m like, ok this is getting ridiculous. On her part and mine because I was  allowing her to do it. To make a long story short. We are still moving and I am determined to live my life for me. My advice to you all is to realize your worth and start living like your worthy. Stop living to please others cause you’ll never satisfy them. Satisfying yourself is much more rewarding even though it’s hard to do at first. It’s worth it in the end.

SEX…. Is it more of a chore or enjoyment?


This is another open forum for the ladies and gentlemen…

Question: Is sex more of a chore in a marriage/relationship or enjoyment?

I know some people can relate to  both sides. You hear about people being in relationship for a couple of years and lose the sexual enjoyment. Instead it become more of a chore. Something you do out of an obligation. If you didn’t have to do it you wouldn’t.

Quick scenario: chick gets ready for bed in a head scarf, sweat pants, big t-shirt with one sock on and the other one off. Boyfriend/ husband/fiancé, scratching his butt real hard, farts, look at his chic like she did it then yanks his boxers out of his crack just before getting under the covers. The chic has all kind of names going through her head that she wants to call him but instead both of them turn their backs to each other until……… he turns around and press it against her butt and then she has 2 seconds to come up with a good fake snore, get a fast head ache or take a deep breath and give in hoping it will be over soon.

My question is where does things go wrong? and why?  There are no right or wrong opinions.  I

I feel that sex is very important in  a relationship.  It’s where 2 people get a chance to connect on a spiritual level with their soul mate. It relieves stress, it makes your bond closer. It’s enjoyment for me… what about you?

Side Chicks..


This is a open forum for the Ladies and Gentlemen…….

Why are some women OK with being the side chic? 

I see it all of the time. I asked a guy his opinion and he said, ” I think females want to feel loved even if its not real. They think that some attention is better than none at all. We hear all the time about women without fathers in their life tend to look for  a man to fill the void but what about the mothers who raise these daughters? What have these women been exposed to growing up as a child from their mothers? Did the child grow up seeing the mother being a side chic?  What’s the mentality around it? I want to hear open minded opinions. There are not right or wrong answers. I want you to really think about it before you comment. And if you are a side chic or have been one in the past. Tell us your story… Maybe this information can help someone who might be lost or confused. Hey after all we have all been there whether we did it knowingly or not.

Big chop & style


1.The first pic is where I did the big chop on her while it was wet because I needed to see clearly where her new growth ended.
2.This pic shows where I cut and blow dried her hair.
I used a vinegar rinse on her hair then placed her under the hair steamer to bring life back into her hair and scalp.
3,4. The braided style I choose for hair. I also sleeked down her edges because she has temporary alopecia. With great care this type of alopecia will grow back soon.

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Big chop n style


Kim has been transitioning for 2 years so I chopped off her remaining relaxer, have her a steam treatment after shampooing and conditioning with herbal essence hydration. Then I styled her hair in a corn row Mohawk and comb coils for the bang area. Her hair had also broken off from pony tail styles on a regular basis. So my plan is to do her hair in protective styles every 2 weeks with steam treatments. Healthy hair rocks……. Check out the photos.

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Trichotillosis- 50 ways to stop pulling your hair


50 Ways to Stop Pulling Your Hair

Originally published on the TLCTRICHSUPPORT email group.

As many  of you know I am over 9 weeks pull free. I started to come up with a list of  ideas on how to stop pulling your hair for a article im writing. I am going to  list them below.

50 ways to stop pulling your hair
*   = I have tried these methods.       ** = These tips have helped me the most.

  • Wear a bandana to bed. *
  • Make a sticker chart. Everyday that you go without pulling add a  sticker. Hang this sticker chart in a room where you pull the most.**
  • Reward yourself after several days (or hours) of being pull free.*
  • Be patient with yourself.*
  • Join a support group.*
  • Talk to another person with Trichotillomania.*
  • Wet down your hair. This will make it really hard to pull out your  hair since it will be slippery.*
  • Learn what your body needs instead of pulling. Is your body tired,  hungry, sleepy, excited, etc? Then tell yourself out loud what you need   and go do it.**
  • Get a membership with TLC
  • Stimulate your senses. Many of us that pull like the sensation  that comes with it. Instead of pulling do other things to stimulate these such  as washing your hair, brushing your lips on dental floss or string (if you rub  the hair on your lips), and massaging your scalp.*
  • Avoid caffeine right before bed. Often bed time is a time when a  lot of people pull. By using caffeine you keep yourself up longer and it  heightens anxiety.*
  • Buy a fidget toy.*
  • Find other things to do with your hands such as knitting,  crocheting, or cross stitch. *
  • Wear a hoodie to bed as a barrier to pulling. *
  • Go see a psychologist that performs cognitive behavioral therapy
  • Try hypnotherapy *
  • Make small reasonable goals. Such as I will not pull for the next  three hours. Then keep increasing your time.
  • Look at your hair in the mirror everyday with your hands behind  your back. Stare into the mirror until the anxiety to pull has lessened. This  is called exposure therapy and it does work!  **
  • Look in the mirror every day to see how much its grown. Be proud  of your hard work. **
  • Brush your hair instead of pulling*
  • Have a positive attitude**
  • If you pull some hair do not beat yourself up about it, just try  again.
  • Use the saying “every hair belongs on my head” and  repeat this over and over until the urge to pull ceases.*
  • Make yourself busy, too much down time can be dangerous.*
  • Help others, which in turn will help you.**
  • Read everything you can on the internet about trichotillomania and  the treatment plans to deal with it.*
  • Watch shows and documentaries about trichotillomania to learn new  techniques.*
  • Wear perfume on your hands so that you will realize when your hand  is going up to pull out your hair.
  • Name the hairs you want to pull out. It sounds silly but for some  it works.
  • Spend less time in the areas of your house that you pull in.*
  • Keep a journal of your feelings.*
  • Find a hair that is laying around your house and stare at it  daily. For many people the sight of hair can trigger hair pulling. By staring  at a piece of hair everyday you are exposing yourself to the anxiety that  follows. This will eventually cause the anxiety to lessen.*
  • Also read textbooks about the anatomy of hair. This does the same  thing as #32
  • Play with silly putty *
  • Take a long bath to ease the anxiety.**
  • Wear a wig the entire day, until you go to bed. Then put on a  bandana. ( Only use this the first two weeks or so, then trust yourself enough  to take it off)*
  • Take good care of your hair. Appreciating the hair you have will  provide you with the courage you need to grow more. This means you should brush  your hair daily, wash it at least once a day if possible, and respect that it  belongs on your head.*
  • Put your tweezers in a cabinet until you need them for grooming,  not Trichotillomania. If you use tweezers a lot you may need to throw them out  and only buy new ones when you have your Trichotillomania under control.*
  • Imagine your life without Trichotillomania and with hair.**
  • Place lotion or gel on your hands so it’s hard to grasp the hair  you want to pull.
  • Place notes that say “NO” or inspirational sayings about  stopping hair pulling in places where you normally pull.
  • Wear a rubber band around your wrist to snap every time you want  to pull.
  • Wear a bead bracelet to fidget  with.
  • Lift weights. Your arms will be too tired to want to pull.
  • Pet an animal. Sometimes just running your hands through a pet’s  fur can stimulate the same sensation that you need in order to ease anxiety.*
  • Meditate.
  • Take pictures of your bald spots and post them where you usually  pull. When seeing these pictures you will not want to pull since bald spots are  frightening.
  • Tell your friends and family to tell you to stop if they see you  pulling. *
  • Spread the word about Trichotillomania. Sometimes telling other  people about our condition helps us  want  to change it. *
  • Last but not least learn to love yourself. Only then  can you start to heal. **

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