Tag Archive | big chop

How to achieve these curls


After shampooing my hair, 

I Applied Giovanni direct leave-in conditioner, olive oil eco styler gel and grey perm rods. 

Rod your hair the way you would like your hair to fall. 

I allowed my hair to air dry. 

Once my hair was dry, I mist it with a little water in a spray bottle. 

Protective styles -mini twists


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This is a mini rope twist style. It’s takes about 4 to 5 hours to do. This will be my protective style of choice for a month. I started by cleansing and conditioning my hair, Then I Combed It Out And Sectioned It In 4 Pony tails And Let It Air dry. The only product I used to twist my hair was Murray’s gel lot – lock for natural hair. 1391280628148

 

Let me know if you have any questions or if you need a how to link that I need to post.

Thanks for blessing my page, naturalhairworldconfessions

 

Stop!!! Why are you trying to please everyone? 


Lately, I’ve been running into so many people who have a down fall of constantly trying to please other people.  I know many of you reading this can relate. Rather it’s you parents, boyfriend,  wife, children, boss, friends etc.  How many times have you said, I want to go here or wear this outfit but I know (fill in the blank) won’t like it?  So, you end up not doing what you want,  just so someone else is pleased.  Being a people pleaser makes you miserable. I must confess that I had it bad. I put my own feelings aside for people that mattered and it was so bad that I was trying to please people that I knew didn’t like me. How crazy is that? And let’s not talk about relationships. .. Omg, I use to bend over backwards for whoever I was dating to prove myself worthy to him. I liked wearing lipstick but if I knew they didn’t like it, I wouldn’t wear it. Or what about this all familar scenerio.

me: I want to go eat at McDonald’s.

Boyfriend: I like Burger King better. ( even though I hate Burger king)

me: oh ok, I’m sure I can find something there.

Meanwhile, I’m sitting at the restaurant miserable because I’m not happy with my choice but My hardest obstacle in life was my own mother.( believe it or not) My mom always used these manipulating tactics with me growing up. For instance, I always wanted to go to the airforce. So, after high school, I took the Asvab test to go to the Airfoce. That was around the same time my father passed away. So when my mom found out my plans, she started saying to me how if I left, she wouldn’t have anyone else here and how anything could happen to her. So instead of going through with my plans, I allowed her to manipulate me into staying and I never left.  I’m still here in the same city (One decision I will always regret). When she saw that worked, she started using it to pick my friends. After I was married, I told her that  my new husband and I ate thinking of moving 1 hour away to start our lives and what did she do?  She starting tell me how she’s getting old and if she dies,  she wanted me to have the house. I’m like, ok this is getting ridiculous. On her part and mine because I was  allowing her to do it. To make a long story short. We are still moving and I am determined to live my life for me. My advice to you all is to realize your worth and start living like your worthy. Stop living to please others cause you’ll never satisfy them. Satisfying yourself is much more rewarding even though it’s hard to do at first. It’s worth it in the end.

SEX…. Is it more of a chore or enjoyment?


This is another open forum for the ladies and gentlemen…

Question: Is sex more of a chore in a marriage/relationship or enjoyment?

I know some people can relate to  both sides. You hear about people being in relationship for a couple of years and lose the sexual enjoyment. Instead it become more of a chore. Something you do out of an obligation. If you didn’t have to do it you wouldn’t.

Quick scenario: chick gets ready for bed in a head scarf, sweat pants, big t-shirt with one sock on and the other one off. Boyfriend/ husband/fiancé, scratching his butt real hard, farts, look at his chic like she did it then yanks his boxers out of his crack just before getting under the covers. The chic has all kind of names going through her head that she wants to call him but instead both of them turn their backs to each other until……… he turns around and press it against her butt and then she has 2 seconds to come up with a good fake snore, get a fast head ache or take a deep breath and give in hoping it will be over soon.

My question is where does things go wrong? and why?  There are no right or wrong opinions.  I

I feel that sex is very important in  a relationship.  It’s where 2 people get a chance to connect on a spiritual level with their soul mate. It relieves stress, it makes your bond closer. It’s enjoyment for me… what about you?

Side Chicks..


This is a open forum for the Ladies and Gentlemen…….

Why are some women OK with being the side chic? 

I see it all of the time. I asked a guy his opinion and he said, ” I think females want to feel loved even if its not real. They think that some attention is better than none at all. We hear all the time about women without fathers in their life tend to look for  a man to fill the void but what about the mothers who raise these daughters? What have these women been exposed to growing up as a child from their mothers? Did the child grow up seeing the mother being a side chic?  What’s the mentality around it? I want to hear open minded opinions. There are not right or wrong answers. I want you to really think about it before you comment. And if you are a side chic or have been one in the past. Tell us your story… Maybe this information can help someone who might be lost or confused. Hey after all we have all been there whether we did it knowingly or not.

Big chop & style


1.The first pic is where I did the big chop on her while it was wet because I needed to see clearly where her new growth ended.
2.This pic shows where I cut and blow dried her hair.
I used a vinegar rinse on her hair then placed her under the hair steamer to bring life back into her hair and scalp.
3,4. The braided style I choose for hair. I also sleeked down her edges because she has temporary alopecia. With great care this type of alopecia will grow back soon.

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Big chop n style


Kim has been transitioning for 2 years so I chopped off her remaining relaxer, have her a steam treatment after shampooing and conditioning with herbal essence hydration. Then I styled her hair in a corn row Mohawk and comb coils for the bang area. Her hair had also broken off from pony tail styles on a regular basis. So my plan is to do her hair in protective styles every 2 weeks with steam treatments. Healthy hair rocks……. Check out the photos.

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