Stop!!! trying to please everybody.


Lately, I’ve been running into so many people who have a down fall of constantly trying to please other people.  I know many of you reading this can relate. Rather it’s you parents, boyfriend,  wife, children, boss, friends etc.  How many times have you said, I want to go here or wear this outfit but I know (fill in the blank) won’t like it?  So, you end up not doing what you want,  just so someone else is pleased.  Being a people pleaser makes you miserable. I must confess that I had it bad. I put my own feelings aside for people that mattered and it was so bad that I was trying to please people that I knew didn’t like me. How crazy is that? And let’s not talk about relationships. .. Omg, I use to bend over backwards for whoever I was dating to prove myself worthy to him. I liked wearing lipstick but if I knew they didn’t like it, I wouldn’t wear it. Or what about this all familar scenerio.

me: I want to go eat at McDonald’s.

Boyfriend: I like Burger King better. ( even though I hate Burger king)

me: oh ok, I’m sure I can find something there.

Meanwhile, I’m sitting at the restaurant miserable because I’m not happy with my choice but My hardest obstacle in life was my own mother.( believe it or not) My mom always used these manipulating tactics with me growing up. For instance, I always wanted to go to the airforce. So, after high school, I took the Asvab test to go to the Airfoce. That was around the same time my father passed away. So when my mom found out my plans, she started saying to me how if I left, she wouldn’t have anyone else here and how anything could happen to her. So instead of going through with my plans, I allowed her to manipulate me into staying and I never left.  I’m still here in the same city (One decision I will always regret). When she saw that worked, she started using it to pick my friends. After I was married, I told her that  my new husband and I ate thinking of moving 1 hour away to start our lives and what did she do?  She starting tell me how she’s getting old and if she dies,  she wanted me to have the house. I’m like, ok this is getting ridiculous. On her part and mine because I was  allowing her to do it. To make a long story short. We are still moving and I am determined to live my life for me. My advice to you all is to realize your worth and start living like your worthy. Stop living to please others cause you’ll never satisfy them. Satisfying yourself is much more rewarding even though it’s hard to do at first. It’s worth it in the end.

Heal From Unsupportive Friends and Family


This video is by beautifulbrwnbabydol(Youtube) I love her because she’s so honest and straight forward. She speaks the truth and its so real. You don’t find people like this often. But anyway, I hope you enjoy this as much as I did and hopefully it will help someone… check her out on youtube if you haven’t already.

Natural by choice or popularity?


DId you become natural because you felt like it was the best healthy choice or because its popular and everyone’s doing it now?

How would you describe your style and what is your goal length?

I made the decision to go natural for both reasons equally.

My style is pretty broad and hard to explain. I dress according to how I’m feeling. If that makes sense. I love the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s era. I enjoy different cultures and nationalities and sometimes I take bits and pieces from them all to make my own style. I love high heels but I can not walk in them. I like to dress my natural up with flowers, ribbons, hats, scarves etc. My goal length is waist length. My hair has never past bra strap length so I’m excited to reach my goal with all of you.

Tell me about yours….

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What do you know about a ” Vision Board”?


My Vision BoardA vision board is a tool used to help clarify, concentrate and maintain focus on a specific life goal. Literally, a vision board is any sort of board on which you display images that represent whatever you want to be, do or have in your life. In our ultra-digital age, you can also create vision boards to display on your computer screen and mobile devices.

What is the point? Simply put, we tend to be a very busy species and constantly bombarded by distractions. Making use of vision boards serves several purposes, some of which include helping you to:

  • Identify your vision and give it clarity.
  • Reinforce your daily affirmations.
  • Keep your attention on your intentions.
  • Vision Boards Help Provide Clarity

For example, to say “I want a better life” is a fine goal, but have you given serious thought to exactly what that means? Try to envision what your “better life” looks like. For those of us who find that somewhat difficult, making a vision board can be a tremendous help. In order to create my vision board, I must actively seek images that represent specific details of my wonderful new life. That means narrowing it down to specifics. For some, a better life might mean having a new car or home. Others may be seeking a new relationship or improvements in existing relationships. Doubtless you have heard it said that most of us never get what we want because we don’t know what we want. Making a vision board is a wonderful way to bring clarity to that general desire and turn it into an achievable goal.

Use a Vision Board for Your Daily Affirmations

I have high self esteem
I love and respect myself
I am a great person
I respect myself deeply
My thoughts and opinions are valuable
I am confident that I can achieve anything
I have something special to offer the world
Others like and respect me

These are some examples of a vision board.

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So, since you now know what a vision looks like……

..vision board  3 I would love to post your vision board on my blog.

 

 

 

 

SEX…. Is it more of a chore or enjoyment?


This is another open forum for the ladies and gentlemen…

Question: Is sex more of a chore in a marriage/relationship or enjoyment?

I know some people can relate to  both sides. You hear about people being in relationship for a couple of years and lose the sexual enjoyment. Instead it become more of a chore. Something you do out of an obligation. If you didn’t have to do it you wouldn’t.

Quick scenario: chick gets ready for bed in a head scarf, sweat pants, big t-shirt with one sock on and the other one off. Boyfriend/ husband/fiancé, scratching his butt real hard, farts, look at his chic like she did it then yanks his boxers out of his crack just before getting under the covers. The chic has all kind of names going through her head that she wants to call him but instead both of them turn their backs to each other until……… he turns around and press it against her butt and then she has 2 seconds to come up with a good fake snore, get a fast head ache or take a deep breath and give in hoping it will be over soon.

My question is where does things go wrong? and why?  There are no right or wrong opinions.  I

I feel that sex is very important in  a relationship.  It’s where 2 people get a chance to connect on a spiritual level with their soul mate. It relieves stress, it makes your bond closer. It’s enjoyment for me… what about you?

Side Chicks..


This is a open forum for the Ladies and Gentlemen…….

Why are some women OK with being the side chic? 

I see it all of the time. I asked a guy his opinion and he said, ” I think females want to feel loved even if its not real. They think that some attention is better than none at all. We hear all the time about women without fathers in their life tend to look for  a man to fill the void but what about the mothers who raise these daughters? What have these women been exposed to growing up as a child from their mothers? Did the child grow up seeing the mother being a side chic?  What’s the mentality around it? I want to hear open minded opinions. There are not right or wrong answers. I want you to really think about it before you comment. And if you are a side chic or have been one in the past. Tell us your story… Maybe this information can help someone who might be lost or confused. Hey after all we have all been there whether we did it knowingly or not.

I’m baaaack!!!!


Ok so, I’m embarrassed to say but its been about a year since I’ve  posted anything. The last thing I’ve posted was on my birthday. You know how it is on your birthday or new years eve when you make up in your mind that your going to change for the better and all this mumbo jumbo…. Well that was me.. I took a before pictures of how I looked so that I could post it  because my plan was to lose weight, write a book and I believe grow my hair longer. Oh and about the pictures well lets just say, I was too embarrassed to put them up. I will be honest with you. Taking pictures of yourself when your feeling the most unattractive and looking at them are one thing.  Posting them on the internet for everyone to see is a whole different ball game lol. So, to make a long story short, I punked out. I felt too embarrassed to write. Kinda like when you borrow money from someone and never pay them back then you get mad at them and stop speaking because you know they are looking for their money. lolol, but I am here to tell you that the devil is a LIAR. I have decided to update my blog name from naturalhairworld to naturalhairworldconfessions. why? Because for so long, I’ve ran away from things that seem to hard for me. Including speaking on my true feelings. Always wondering how the next person might feel about what I’ve said. I’ve always placed others before myself.  In January, I will be 37 years old and feel the need to express myself in every way possible. So, it’s no telling what you’ll get from me. Did you know that “Worrying” about anything and everything can cause so much sickness and unhealthiness in your life and body?  Well, I refuse to continue to live that life….Again, My blog name is http://naturalhairworldconfessions.wordpress.org. …..feel free to ask questions, advice, send me pics of your natural unique style or just…………………. Enjoy the ride.