How to know if you really have a good man.
I will never forget what my first husband told me when I asked him, why did he cheat on me.
His response was simple…
His answer: Because, you let me.
Well quite naturally it doesn’t take rocket 🚀 science to tell you that anybody who cheats on you, is NOT a good man/ woman for you. To me, that goes without saying because if he loves you, truly loves you, he will do everything in his power, never to put you in any negative situation involving another woman. No ifs ands or buts about it.
We can all agree that social media is of the Devil!! Lol 😆. Its so easy to cheat and communicate with other women. So, how to know when you’ve found a good man? Thats an easy answer. By his actions. How does he treat you? Be honest. How does he make you feel? What vibes do your family 👪 and friends get from him? Does he make you feel protected? When your in a situation where your treated unfairly or disrespected, does he immediately take your side and straighten it out ? Or does he remain quiet and say nothing at all. In other words, does he support you and have your back at all times even if it involves his family and friends?
To Beautiful blended families
In this day and age, there is a strong possibility that you may find yourself in a situation where he may already have kids. And don’t get me wrong, theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. My question is how comfortable does he make you feel in that situation? Does he make sure that the kids mother respect your role in his kids life? Is he showing the utmost respect to you in his co parenting relationship with his kids mother? Does he allow you room to develop your own relationship with his kids or does he make you feel like your role is not as important in his kids life? If you find yourself in this situation, these questions are very important to know the answers to. Having blended families these days are very common. So being in a relationship or marriage can become resentful or dreadful if its not a mutual understanding between all partipating parties involved. We hear horror stories about baby 👶 mama drama or baby 👶 daddy drama. The ex-wife or baby mama should never be allowed to feel she is more important than you. That can cause so many other disrespectful problems but Thats another story in itself lol but it all can be avoided if it is communicated and understood early on in your relationship.
Also, I must ask this question because this may be the most important of them all.. And that question is how much do you love yourself? I’ll tell you why I think this is the most important question. Ive learned that men are very smart. (Close your mouths ladies, its true) They pay attention to more than we as women realize. Men may not always know what they want in a woman 👩 but I promise you, they definitely know what they Do Not want in a woman. A man pays attention to your actions more than you think. They pay attention to how you carry yourself, how you act in public, the clothes you wear, what kind of mother you are to your kids, how fast you allow them to meet your kids, how often your in the streets, how fast you give up the vajayjay, how good you are with money, whether or not you can hold an intellectual conversation, whether or not he wants you to meet his mother and most of all, they pay attention to how you as a woman ALLOW them to treat you and what you allow them to get away with. They test you without you knowing it. They will never tell you those things because men allow you to show them who you really are and from the information that they receive from you ladies, they’ll treat you accordingly. So loving and respecting yourself is just as important as knowing if you have a good man. Teach a man how to love and be the right man to you by loving and being the right one to yourself.
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